OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS: Another IPS (Inner Peace Symptom)

OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS: Another IPS (Inner Peace Symptom)

Another IPS (Inner Peace Symptom):  an understanding that the wish for other people’s approval makes you about as sturdy as a block of jello.  [The balance for that seems to be knowing where you want to go and walking towards it, all the while looking for obstacles and for workarounds.  If you do that, you’ll be too busy to worry about what They think….]

Other people’s opinions are so important to you when you’re a young person.  It’s like everybody wants to tell you how to bend yourself into some kind of pretzel or other.  Very often, it’s all done with the best of intentions, but the real is all that listening to other people’s opinions and following what they say just bends you out of shape and makes you walk funny.   You forget who you truly are.  And sometimes you never really do find out.

WHY PEOPLE’S OPINIONS OF YOU AREN’T REAL

That video, Why People’s Opinions of You Aren’t Real, was put together by American actor, comedian and motivational speaker Kyle Cease.

COMEDIAN TURNED LIFE COACH

Cease has been a comedian from the age of 12.  By the time he was 15, Cease was already a regular in comedy clubs and was a headliner at 18 years old.  He was ranked #1 on Comedy Central’s Standup Showdown in 2009.  The guy is good.

About six years ago, Cease started combining his comedy with speaking on “transformational” topics – things like learning to let go, the art of allowing and being in the moment.  He developed weekend-long impromptu performance/workshop events that he calls “Evolving Out Loud – Where Comedy and Transformation Meet.”

Cease spends a lot of his time speaking before large audiences at his college lectures, in seminars, and at corporate conferences and summits.  Mostly he “aims at helping people let go of their fears and anxieties to become more connected to the moment.”  His new book, I HOPE I SCREW THIS UP:  How Falling In Love With Your Fears Can Change the World, has just come out.

FINAL THOUGHT

I think the underlying message of the video is an important one.  It seems to me that since the best and most valuable thing you can give the world is the real you, it is probably a good thing to find out who you are and go do that.

Here’s a poem….


NO LONGER YOUNG AND EMPTY

When I was young and empty,
Stirring awake from my womb dreams,
I knew the shallow dreams of youth,
The ones They told me were proper
For my age and my circumstance.

When I was young and empty,
My innocence intact,
I reached for the fool’s gold plate
Heaped with the very things They
Had dismissed or discarded.

When I was young and empty,
My heart a-gleam with legend,
They force-fed all Their pasty-livered axioms
Directly into my cranium ’til I waddled…
Stuffed with their dribblings and drools.

When I was young and empty,
Tender as a green, exploring sprout,
They filled me with Their chronic hungers
And old dreams, as though
It were up to me to make them work out right.

When I was young and empty….
But…
While I am no longer young,
I have become again empty….
I have vomited up Their convoluted hair balls,
Their tinsel-wrapped barbed wire knots.
I have spewed out Their old
And breathless rants and raves,
Expelled Their fruitless loops…..

Behind piles of detritus and debris,
The overflow of Other People’s Madnesses,
Is the door to my long-hidden, secret place,
The haven where the river of my
Own undying dreaming flow.

They wait for me there, the dreams,
Now that I am no longer young but am again empty.

by Netta Kanoho

Picture credit:  Sunrise, Sunrise by Chris Chabot via Flickr [CC BY-NC 2.0]

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6 thoughts on “OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS: Another IPS (Inner Peace Symptom)

  1. i had commented on the site comment area, but the site is interesting, leading one to seek that inner peace which is the sites title. Great…uh, i don’t see links to any areas or “you have questions get with me?” type of statements or anything related except the comment section, which is still ok. Fine tuning is needed, I see. This in turn will help me on my ideas. Thanks

    1. You’re welcome, Lester. And thank you!

  2. Thank you for the great post in which I was happy to share on my google account. I also appreciate the video as it helping me with my personal journey.

    You see, I recently recognised that I was always seeking other people’s approval and in that seeking, I was disconnecting from what I wanted, and Cease’s wise words have helped me with a means of how I can stop this unhealthy behaviour.

    1. Hey Amberlee….I’m so glad that the post helped. Please come again!

  3. Brandon Cox says:

    Wow. That last line, “They wait for me there, the dreams, Now that I am no longer young but am again empty,” is pretty powerful. It evokes so much emotion of both regret and longing, and it’s motivating in its own way. Thanks for writing this today! I’m about to turn 40 and kinda needed it.

    1. You’re welcome, Brandon. Thanks for your visit and for sharing your thoughts. Please do come again!

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