Lately I’ve been stumbling around after tripping over a mind-game construct called “doing a mindset reset.”
Apparently, it’s based on pretty recent neurological studies that the guys and gals in lab coats say reveal the inherent “plasticity” of a human brain’s ability to control our body’s functions, actions and all that.
There are all kinds of big words and dizzy-making charts and boring numbers and, as usual, my poet-brain goes to sleep when I try to think on them. The best I can do with all this stuff is to come up with yet another story. So, here goes….
BUILDING NEURAL PATHWAYS TO SURVIVAL
One of the major super-powers a human possesses (the people in white lab coats say) is an amazing ability to adapt to all kinds of diverse circumstances and situations in our consensus-world.
We can survive almost any kind of adversity. It’s our biggest “thing.”
Humans pull off this survival thing very well, they say, because we come jam-packed with all of these nerves that are arranged into systems which affect how our bodies work and how we move through the world.
What we do (or don’t do) is the result of the movement of our impulses and thoughts that scoot down neural pathways that start in our brain and run through our whole bodies.
The coolest thing about these neural pathways is that every one of us can build new ones for our own thoughts and impulses.
We can shift around the courses of the pathways and we can use them to develop new patterns of actions and behaviors. We can do all kinds of tricks with some pretty basic body chemical reactions that affect our body tissues and muscles and all that.
It’s like each of us has our own Department of Transportation road-building crews working on all of these pathways of ours.
The crews are ubiquitous. They are out there every day, maintaining all of these roads running through our bodies as well as building new ways and abandoning or tearing down older ones.
The crews are tireless. They work 24/7 – even when we are sleeping.
They are also really low-tech, using sometimes ancient and often dull tools on their projects. (These tools, after all, have been in constant use over the course of the thousands of years us humans have been around.)
Often the crews are kind of confused about where all these trails and paths and roads and highways are supposed to go. A lot of the guys on these crews are also pretty lazy or they are in overwhelm or maybe even burned-out.
Inevitably, it seems, the neural pathway building projects are usually behind schedule, over-budget, and often badly managed.
Still, the pathways do get built. (They can get bigger and wider. They also fall apart, end in cul-de-sacs that go nowhere, or they fail. Sometimes they are abandoned. Whatever.)
MIND ROAD-CONSTRUCTION (SORT-OF) EXPLAINED
Every day our command-thoughts and nerve impulses go scooting around down these neural pathways zapping a set of muscles or something as they go.
There are natural, built-in feedback loops between our command centers and our body tissues so the body moves we make in response to circumstances and situations outside our body help (or hinder) the efforts of all the neural pathway road crews who are hard at work doing their thing.
If you start consistently doing a new thing that involves the same set of physical body movements done over and over again, an exciting thing happens.
Over time, the road crews start making new pathways so it becomes easier for your thoughts and impulses to trigger your muscles and tissues into doing your new preferred behaviors.
Eventually your body will be able to manifest a new pattern of behavior that will require almost no actual hard thinking from you.
We call these patterns “routines” and “habits.”
You get to be that starship commander who was always telling his people, “Make it so!” You get to be the “get-‘er-done” guy or gal.
Also, it gets a lot easier for you to keep on using the newer pathways. Your reward is being able to do more stuff that affects the consensus world around you in ways that are satisfying to you.
And, maybe some of the other, older pathways (like the one that had you reaching for that mind-numbing pill or drink or that lovely new pair of shoes or an entire cheesecake or placing that one-in-a-million chance bet) get abandoned as a result.
It’s all good.
WHEN CRISES STRIKE
When you get rocked by some disaster or a series of cataclysms in your outer world, your brain may fall back on using old pathways, which, of course, will affect how your body responds to the effects of the new-to-you catastrophe. You may start reusing old mindsets and patterns of behavior in your attempts to cope with the new set of circumstances.
It’s likely that these older default patterns of behavior won’t work very well. (Probably, this was why you tried so hard to change the patterns in the first place.) It’s also why rampant recidivism is a fact of life.
Anyway, when that happens and you find yourself having to make some major life transition or other, all the assorted advisors in your life (the guys in the lab coats, the ancient wise guys, and assorted other know-it-alls) tell you that you have to stop, step back and reflect, ponder and just think about what you are going to do next.
That’s when it’s really important to “reset your mindset,” it says here.
UMMMM….WHAT ARE “MINDSETS” ANYWAY?
In case you don’t know, “mindsets” are collections of related thoughts and body moves that make up the various ways that people walk through the world. Mindsets are very much like road-maps of the patterns of behaviors that you’ve used to build up your systems and ways of walking.
If you’re into it, you may also collect various good ideas by taking note of the ways other people walk. It’s a good thing to do that because it means more building material for you to use when you build your own pathways.
By being aware of the mindsets you and other people use to walk in the world, you can actually build up a library of the things in your mind. You can go to that mindset library (we call it “memory”) and look over the options and ways of moving that you’ve collected.
You can even think on how to make adjustments to certain of these mindsets that might be useful in the new situations you are facing and, perhaps, you might be able to suss out new ways to move that might possibly help things work out in your favor.
ONE AUTHENTIC TAKE ON A MIND AND BODY IN TRANSIT
Mel Robbins is a world-renowned life-coach. Recently, in the middle of dealing with the effects of the changes wrought in her life during this year of the Great Pandemic, she uploaded this birthday vlog post, “Today is my 52nd birthday and, honestly, I feel lost….”
Robbins shares her thoughts and her feelings as she faces multiple challenges that require her to transition away from the life she has already built which she has enjoyed very much.
She tells us the steps she has decided she is going to take to get past her own turmoil so she can move herself forward to a new chapter in the story she is making.
Her five steps are these:
- Recognize and name the feelings you are experiencing in order to help you get back to clarity.
- Move your body so you can get the feelings out of your body.
- Do one thing that makes you happy.
- Do a brain dump – write out your thoughts and find out what you’re thinking by using that pencil.
- Use the mantra, “This is temporary.”
And then she adds one more: Force yourself to start dreaming again. “Dream big,” she says, and she points out that your new dream can help pull you forward out of your sad and overwhelmed state of mind.
This life hack is a good one. It even has the Good Scientific Research Seal of Approval. All the stuff she suggests that you do has been proven to work by assorted scientific studies at one time or another.
I have actually used these suggestions my own self (more times than I like to remember), sometimes with very good results. It works fine when the world-changes are not too radical and not stacked too deep.
A CAVEAT OR TWO ABOUT MIND “RESET BUTTONS”
I do notice, however, that when the events are unfamiliar and new-to-you or when there are too many of them happening all at once, it can quickly become evident that you don’t actually HAVE routines, habits, or actions that you can fall back on, that you know will help you make it past all the confusion and angst you may be experiencing.
The biggest problem with this whole “mindset reset” thing is that, for real, we humans actually do not come equipped with a reset button that automatically activates a switch which can instantaneously put us into a head-space that will allow us to deal effectively with a new-to-us major upset.
The reset mechanism is actually an add-on that we humans have to build for ourselves over the course of our lives. (Some people use meditation as a reset mechanism. Others go fishing, head for the garden, or take out the knitting needles and yarn. Whatever works.)
A lot of us don’t put the time and effort into building a reset mechanism that we can use in these kinds of situations. Many of us don’t even know that we can actually do that.
So, panic ensues when you feel like you’re skiing down some steep mountain slope ahead of an avalanche. Your internal road crews trip all over each other and run around crazy. They often get buried under the avalanche. ARGH!
When things settle down a bit and you figure out that, hey, you are still alive and you have survived all the battering and bruising, then you can get back to making pathways and start doing your walk again, maybe in a new way.
It’ll be hard going at first, but it will get easier. (That’s just how it works.) The story will continue and you are still going to be the one who makes it happen.
As Robbins says, this here thing is only temporary. More is yet to come. (You can tell THAT is so because you’re still alive.)
It does take time and effort to get on with doing whatever you decide you need to do to get out of whatever mess you got pitched into. There will be missteps. You can try stuff out. Sometimes it works; sometimes not. And you do go on.
ONE MORE TAKEAWAY
The thing I got out of all this mulling around and making up stories is an appreciation for the power of developing your awareness of the worlds inside and outside of yourself as well as the value of the attitudes and mindsets you cling to as you do your walk-about.
I fell in love with this cute and cheery little award-winning animated short film called “Head Up”. It was put together by director Gottfried Mentor and his crew and uploaded to YouTube in 2016 by FilmBilder and Friends. It stars a couple of goofy goats.
Maybe there’s a lesson in there somewhere. For sure there is a smile.
And here’s a poem:
I make stories in my head
Of what might be and how.
Sometimes all the dreaming
Covers over what is now.
Strategos, the warrior-mind,
Plans out every step.
At moves and counter-moves
It is particularly adept.
My training has made me so.
My need to map it all out
Arises out of a lifetime full
Of fears, desires and doubt.
The wanting and the need
To always be the best,
To make a mark – some impact –
To be better than the rest.
To lay this all aside
Is a challenge I now face.
The path I have chosen
Leads me to a different place.
I am going back to wonder,
To beauty and to awe,
And I am shedding all the armor,
Standing in the raw.
It’s scary, this thing I am doing.
And, sometimes, I question why
There is this need inside me
To take this path…to try.
But, I have tried the other,
I gave it my best shot.
It left me lost in darkness,
My heart squeezed down to a clot.
This road that I am taking
Leads me to the light,
And I guess I’ll just keep trying
To stay ahead of fright.
By Netta Kanoho
Header photo credit:. “NTS path restoration” by nineonesix via Flickr [CC BY-NC-SA 2.0]
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