BEYOND STUFF-LOVE (Part 4): On Wabi-Sabi

BEYOND STUFF-LOVE (Part 4): On Wabi-Sabi

As a Perfectionist in remission, I am here to tell you that wabi-sabi — a Japanese way of seeing the world — works as an antidote to the never-good-enough, shiny-new-thing madness induced by the classical hyper-focus on perfection and the kind of seamless orderliness that arises from the mathematical, mechanical precision that evolved in the super-industrialized Occidental West where more is always better.

I grew up in a pineapple plantation camp on Molokai.  Many of my neighbors were Issei, first-generation immigrants from Japan, who brought it with them from their homeland.  I was marinated in wabi-sabi.

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“Tofu Warm Night” by Mo Riza via Flickr [CC BY 2.0]
We called it “making do” and “getting by” and “using up stuff.” (We weren’t rich so waste was not an option.)

The place was small and choices were limited and perhaps that is why we were often able to see and appreciate how the passage of time allowed the things, people, and places in our lives to more fully become what they intrinsically were.

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“As Time Goes By” by Madjag via Flickr [CC BY-NC-ND 2.0]
Losses, decay and death were juxtaposed willy-nilly with new and flourishing growth and life.  It all was there to experience in wonderment at the fullness of a life lived small.

Joys and sorrows, laughter and tears mingled and they were…well, messy.

OLD-STYLE GETTING REFURBISHED

I’ve been wading through various opinion and think pieces by designers and wanna-be arbiters of taste and various modes of self-improvement that tout wabi-sabi as the latest flavor of minimalism – this one with a sushi sort of flavor or something.

The postures adopted by the most earnest of the listicle post blog writers are sprinkled with a mystical sort of umami flavoring as they try to explain how we can bend our Stuff-Love towards an appreciation of the beauty of the imperfections and flaws of Life-Its-Own-Self that evolved in the Oriental East.

It’s the latest way to get to happy, they say.  Wabi-sabi is “living the perfect imperfect life,” several of them said.

All we have to do, of course, is buy (or keep) the Right Stuff.

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“Rural Wabi-Sabi” by Peter Prehin via Flickr [CC BY-NC-ND 2.0]

YEAH, RIGHT….

This emphasis on copying the outer forms of the wabi-sabi mindset reminds me of a journey I watched a young relative make during her first few years on-island.

Rosie relocated to Hawaii after spending most of her childhood in the Mainland USA.  Upon her arrival on the island she was able to indulge in immersing herself into one of the root cultures of this place that held great meaning for her.

Her spare time was taken up with learning how to paddle a canoe and what it was to really dance the hula.  The transformation was lovely to see.

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“Ocean That Way” by Christopher Paquette via Flickr [CC BY 2.0]
We met, a few years before her big move, at a family lū’au (party) celebrating the marriage of one of her young cousins.  Rosie and her sisters danced a simple hula as part of the home-grown entertainment.

The dance the sisters and their mom did was painfully correct, a novice effort done with great enthusiasm and a focus on getting all the moves just right.  They did the moves well, but the kaona, the metaphors and references to the hidden meanings behind the words of the song, were missing somehow.

They did get points for trying, but when a real hula dancer took the stage, the movements she made evoked emotions that transported the audience to a different place.

The dancer showed Rosie where the dance could be taken and it inspired her, I think.

She was accepted into one of the best of the more traditional hula halau (schools) on the island and quickly immersed herself into that world of dance.

The next time I saw Rosie dancing on the stage I could see the difference in the way she moved.  The stiffness and rigidity was gone.

Her body was beginning to flow with the rhythm of the music and her understanding of the words of the song and of life in the islands had deepened enough to show in her movements.

Rosie was not Miss Aloha Hula material by any means, but she had taken the understanding and knowledge she had gained down into her bones and it came out in her dance.  It was most beautiful to see.

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“Wabi Sabi” by Erich Ferdinand via Flickr [CC BY 2.0]

FORM AND FEELING

“Form” is one of the big deals of designer-maker mindset.  The word has two meanings.

One refers to the physicality of an object – what it looks like and how your body’s senses react to it — the way an object physically looks and feels and tastes and smells and so on.

The Artful Dodger meaning is more esoteric.  It refers to “the shape among the various elements” that make up the construct.  The various elements of an art piece build up a framework for meaningfulness that can morph, depending on the context into which these elements are placed.

All of that blather just means that the “meaning” of a construct, like its beauty, is in the eye (or ear or nose or tongue or skin) of the beholder.  You have to add body English to it.

This is why some pieces of art, music, dance, literature, fashion, cooking, gardening and all the other bits of possible human expression speak to you and others just don’t.

Your enjoyment of the various kinds of human expression you encounter really does arise out of what you bring to the experience — your values and your mindsets — and that enjoyment doesn’t really depend on the work itself.

This is probably one of the reasons why designers tend to expound on their truth that your mindsets can be affected by the stuff with which you surround yourself.

It’s also why wise guys and deep-thinkers all through history keep on telling us that how we see the things that surround us depends on the quality and strength of our own hearts.

All of that is true.

However, adopting wabi-sabi thingy-ness and wabi-sabi stylings won’t actually get you to your happy place without the application of your attention and mindfulness, your body-wisdom, and your heart.

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“Stone Tiles” by Chris Jackson via Flickr [CC BY-NC 2.0]

WABI-SABI LIFE ACTION

This 2018 YouTube video, “Heart and Mind” was published by Green Renaissance.  It provides, perhaps, an understanding of the kaona (inner meaning) that underlies the wabi-sabi way of walking.

The video features Eduardo Shimahara, a Brazilian micro urban farmer and former mechanical engineer, who is also the founder of the Sustainability Institute, an international living and learning center connected with the University of Stellenbosch in South Africa.

“Green Renaissance” is a collective of four young South African filmmakers who put together video stories of “real people doing amazing things.”  The films are their “passion projects” created between their paying gigs and are partially funded by donations from people who join their Patreon campaign.

They are doing some amazing work.

My own feeling is that Shimahara and the Green Renaissance makers are living wabi-sabi, patching together the bits and pieces of their lives that resonate with their hearts and making contributions to the world that are uniquely their own.

It feels like a good thing.

ONE MORE TAKE

Wabi-sabi is not really just a quintessentially Japanese cultural thing.  It is, perhaps, a universal human truth…one we may have lost sight of in our race towards wherever we’re going.

One fascinating YouTube video, “Heart Mind Coherence,” published by Ancient Explorers in 2016, features best-selling author, scientist, scholar and human potential maven Gregg Braden.

In it he explains a little bit about how our brains and our hearts are intrinsically connected and how we can affect the world because of it.

Basically, in the video, Braden reiterates the old wise-guy wisdom that what we feel and believe about the world is what we will see in it.  It is one of Braden’s most consistent messages – in his talks, in his best-selling books, and in his consultancy practice with many international corporations.

FINAL THOUGHTS

I bet, after all that (if you don’t already know), you’re scratching your head and asking “So…what IS wabi-sabi, Netta?”

Click on the button below for one of the most right-on explanations of it that I’ve seen – an updated version of a 2018 post by BBC contributor and travel writer Lily Crossley Baxter.  It explains it a lot better than I can.

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I started this post with the confession that I suffer from PPS (Perfectly Perfect Syndrome) that has been the bane of my life.  I am addicted, it seems, to trying to reach new heights of Perfectness and taking everybody else along with me.

This led to all kinds of interesting lessons for me and, for a time, also led to my being widely known as a Perfect Bitch.

It took me years to re-learn wabi-sabi’s basic precepts, as delineated by Richard Powell in his book, WABI SABI SIMPLE:  Create Beauty.  Value Imperfection.  Live Deeply

  • Nothing lasts.
  • Nothing is finished.
  • Nothing is perfect.

As they say, I am still learning.

Here’s a poem:


MELANCHOLY

Melancholy feels like an empty space.

I feel melancholy when I am alone,

Saddened by an absence…

The empty space where you used to be,

Sitting there smiling,

Cracking another silly,

Waiting with your strength

To cradle me in my weak times,

Waiting with your weakness

To fill my arms in my strong times.

 

I feel melancholy when I hear

The echoes of your stories,

The telling of your days

That ring through my heart

And fills my head

With yet another realm I never knew

Except when your words

Took me flying through them.

 

I feel melancholy even though

I’ve learned how to be happy

With just me

Because, you know,

Leaning always feels better

When there’s somebody leaning back.

By Netta Kanoho

Header photo credit:  “Enter by the Narrow Gate” by Sharon Tate Soberon via Flickr [CC BY-ND 2.0]

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4 thoughts on “BEYOND STUFF-LOVE (Part 4): On Wabi-Sabi

  1. Karin Nauber says:

    Sweet explanations of the Wabi-Sabi. I love the poem about Melancholy, too. I’m not sure how serious you were about the “Perfect Bitch” phrase, but I think it can be very fitting for people who like to make things as perfect as possible. Whenever I hear the word “perfect”, I always think of that line from Mary Poppins when they measured here and it came up, “Mary Poppins, Practically Perfect in Every Way!”

    We really are never finished, are we? Even when we die, our body can feed the creatures that come after us. Our work, can live on way past us. I work for a newspaper and I always teach our interns or new employees that we are recording history!

    I guess I always felt like I liked my “stuff”, but that for the most part, if I was separated from it, I could easily go on. Not so much from the important people in my life, though. In my life, the right stuff has always been the people that are a part of it.

    Best wishes and I look forward to reading more.

    Karin

    1. Karin, thanks for your visit and for sharing your thoughts.  I especially like your thought about people being your “right stuff.”  YES!

      As for the “Perfect Bitch” thing, I am at least half-way serious.  As you say, we sure don’t ever finish our finishing (until we are finished, I suppose).  

      I kinda like Mary Poppins as a model.  Hmmm….

      Please do come again….

  2. Thoughtful. But I find part of me refuses to accept the concept. Well as you say. Work in progress…

    1. Thanks for your visit and for your thoughts. We are, all of us, on the road to better, I suppose. We keep on….

      Please do come again.

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