WHEN THE STUDENT IS READY
For a long time I thought I just was not fated to have teachers. Very little of what I’ve learned about the Real has come from guru-types. In fact, I am a lot biased against the guru-wannabes.
Maybe I’m like the three year old who’s got the blouse on inside-out and is focused on buttoning the thing regardless. “Me do, me do,” the baby declares.
So do I! What about you?
WHERE ARE MY TEACHERS?
Jerrold Mundis, a writer about financial things, in his book MAKING PEACE WITH MONEY posited that a student becomes “ready” for a teacher by keeping unobstructed and receptive, by setting aside biases and preconceptions, by being willing to listen and consider.
It becomes a matter of Un-Seeing, of finding out how your own prejudices, preconceptions, and attitudes are stopping you from doing what you need to do to get to where you want to go. Then, of course, you’ve got to make the effort to at least be open to other ways of thinking. It’s not always easy.
Perhaps your greatest teacher is your own self and how you react to your own life experiences.
THE VALUE OF SELF-REFLECTION
As Julie Jansen, in her book, I DON’T KNOW WHAT I WANT, BUT I KNOW IT’S NOT THIS, points out, “Self-assessment requires time, honesty, patience and introspection.” Her whole book is all about self-assessment tests and finding out where your head and your heart are trending.
The following video, “The Value of Self-Reflection” is a TEDx talk by James Schmidt, a student at the University of Glasgow in 2015. His thoughts have a deep poignancy from one so young. In it he delineates the lessons he learned in dealing with the death of his father.
RECOGNIZING YOUR “TEACHER”
Jerrold Mundis also says that your “teacher” can be a person, a book, a phrase, an image, a thought, an overheard conversation, an inspiration, a tv show, or a lover. He says, “We recognize the teacher only when we are open to the possibility of being taught.”
Hmmm. Now, there’s a thought: Maybe the teachers have been there all along and I just never recognized them.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
So…what about you? Are you ready to recognize your teachers? What works for you?
Here’s a poem:
HAPPENING TO LIFE
Okay. I’ve made mistakes in my life
and regrets, I have more than a few…
Frank Sinatra’s signature song
makes a neat voice-over
as I’m bumbling my way down this
winding path of mine
that seems to make unexpected turns
and bends and jogs all the time
past assorted dangers and pretty things.
Still, I don’t think I could
do it any other way.
Sitting in some corner being quiet
feels like a punishment to me,
a mean teacher’s favorite consequence
for one who fidgets too much and
distracts the rest of the class from
stale, warmed-over lessons
that have no texture, no taste to them.
I like bubbles and butterflies and balloons,
all notorious for being flighty
and definitely ungrounded.
These things don’t last long,
but then, neither will I.
Sitting stolid and firm just
wouldn’t do, no, wouldn’t do.
’cause papa said that the best thing
is making sure you happen to life.
Otherwise, life will happen anyway.
It always does.
By Netta Kanoho
Picture credit: “Lightbulb vs Candle” by David Singleton via Flickr [CC BY 2.0]
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23 thoughts on “WHEN THE STUDENT IS READY”
I do believe that the WA asked me to review your site because we are of like minds in a lot of ways. Where you seek to educate the world through diction, I seek to show the world through art. Both mediums need the other, for what we see breathes what we speak, which moves the pen.
I am very happy with your site. I pray you continue to do well.
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Thank you for making me aware of your site. I found this poem very insightful and was very pleasantly uplifted by it, despite its serious side.
You have put together a very nice site with a very poetic feel to it…a wonderful place to display and share your talent.
Best wishes for your journey on and offline. 🙂
Hey Chris: Thanks for the visit and the comments. I peeked at your site as well. I do like it — very clean, informative and engaging!
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I’ve never thought about it from this perspective before. There are a lot of ways that we are being taught every day, if we will just pay attention. Your example of the child reminds me of my daughter, who from the moment she could talk was always saying “me do it.” She never wanted anybody to help her with anything and 35 years later, she’s still that way!
Hey Carol: Thank you for your visit and your comments. I do agree the child never changes much….In a way that’s good. Looking at how we consistently react to things does help us figure out our own natures, and then we can work with them to be more effective. Please do come again….
First I want to thank you for introducing me to this Motivational Speaker Jim Rohn for I really took notice in what he is saying and I will be seeking more information from him regarding personal development and success.
In this day and age it is very difficult to decipher what is truth and what is fiction due to so many avenues of teaching possibilities.
I really think one of the major problems that we face is when we are exposed to information we don’t follow-up on and research further into what we have heard. In a sense we become very closed-minded or become brainwashed to the actual truth of things. Either that or we have our own personal agendas which places us into a position of compromising our morals and values to get what we want.
Let us not be deceived by false teachers which at times can be difficult but be more receptive to the truth of what’s being taught and not sit idle without taking every thought into captivity through personal development.
Hey Troy…thank you for your visit and your comments. It is always a difficulty finding the truths that work for you. One person’s way may not be yours. And, as you say, we often have to face the imperatives of our own agendas and make sure they are not compromising the truths we see and live. The important thing is to keep yourself from shutting down, I suppose. Please do come again.
Your language is awesome. I like your your words a lot. I think I can learn a lot about English reading your articles.
About the preconception and obstructive thinking, these were the critical points of resistance of learning. These are the main causes to fight logic and resist learning new things and improving your self.
That’s a great article. I will follow your new content to enrich my English. Your choice of words is great and very enjoyable to read.
I noticed what you said preconception and playing the know-every-thing and miss the other side of the conversation logic.
Listenning carefully and trying to honestly understand is a blessing.
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Well said Netta,
A lot of people today I’d say are book-smart and they’re not open to accepting anything else that’s not from class or books but life is more than a lesson on paper, it is the whole experience that we are living in. It can either break us or teach us, it’s how we open our eyes and accepting that helps us move forward. Just my 2 cents 😀
Thanks for the visit and for sharing your thoughts. I LOVE your 2 cents!
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Thank you for the insight into this subject. To be a student you need to be prepared to be taught and not to come up with perceived notion. You are right you can be taught by anything for people, books, videos, online, and family and friends. It doesn’t matter who but the quality of the material, which is important.
The best advice I was given is ” It is not what you know but what you understand”
Antonio, thank you for your visit and for sharing your thoughts. I especially like the advice you shared. That’s the big one, isn’t it? Knowledge is not necessarily understanding.
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I thoroughly enjoyed this post and your poem. I love the concept of ‘un-seeing’ so we can understand the beliefs and attitudes we hold that are keeping us from changing and growing to be where we want to be in our lives.
Thanks for introducing me to James Schmidt – what an insightful young man. And Jim Rohn, well he is just a legend!
May you continue to like bubbles and butterflies and balloons! What a delight. Thank you 🙂
Hee! Melissa, thanks for your visit and for sharing your thoughts. I’m glad the post was useful to you. Thanks for the blessing too!
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Great post! I especially like how you say that maybe your greatest teacher is your own self as I do believe that to be true on most occasions. I like the idea that teachers can come in all forms. Sometimes it’s nice to read a book from ages ago that you can connect with still today, and perhaps that’s why a book such as the Bible is so timeless and priceless. I like how you’ve added these videos to the post. Well done!
Thanks for the visit and for sharing your thoughts, Pentrental. I do appreciate it.
It’s something that we do tend to forget…we make pretty good teachers our own selves.
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Like I heard recently, there are a lot of ways that we are being taught every day if we will just pay attention. I have learned so much from this already.
English comes so easy with you and I enjoy the way you handle it. I hope I can do that someday.
You are right. You can be taught by anything for people, books, videos, online, and family and friends. Today I have been taught online.
Babakes, thanks for your visit and for sharing your thoughts. I am glad the post was helpful for you.
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Yes, I agree teachers appear when we are ready and yes, everybody can be our teacher. I am a mother of one and he, my son, was and still is my biggest teacher.
In my opinion, we learn every day. Some small talk with somebody gives us the experience of self-reflection, how we listen to some person, what do we hear, how we behave in this relation, in which way we are responsible for some situation that we are in, etc etc.
Another teacher taught me that we don`t need to fix ourselves, improve or change, we need to realize who we really are. We are not aware of our strength and connectivity with our power. And in a poetic, but at the same time, in a very practical way, he describes it by Persian Poet Rumi`s quote ” You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the ocean in a drop”.
Thank you for your beautiful content and inspiration.
Zorana, I do thank you for your visit and for sharing your thoughts. Lovely!
I have always said that my children (son and daughter) have been my best teachers….and they still haven’t stopped.
Thanks for reminding me of Rumi’s thought as well. So cool….
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