The time frames you set to realize your goals can influence whether you achieve your vision of success.  This is the foundation for another exercise in Un-Seeing.

We seem to have been brain-washed into believing that if we don’t weight ourselves down with a lot of pressure to get things done and done and done, then we’re going to just sit there like lumps on a log.

That’s often the rationale behind all this deadline-making fetish we’ve all fallen into.  Put enough pressure on yourself and you’ll squirt ahead of the crowd.  Oh yeah.  Uh-huh.


More often, it seems, putting all that pressure on yourself makes it very hard to move with grace and is likely to break something – either in you or in your relationships and in your world.


Baking a cake takes an hour or so.  Slow-roasting a side of beef takes a lot longer.

If you turn up the heat and try to cook that hunk of meat in an hour like a cake, all you will get is a charred piece of raw meat and an over-heated kitchen.  It doesn’t work.

Setting your time frame is like deciding whether the race you are running is a fifty-yard dash or a marathon.  Different strategies are required, depending on the race you choose to run.

You have to pace yourself — allocate your time and your energy differently.  You have to train differently.

This YouTube video “Eight Stages of Marathon Running,” published in 2013 by BuzzFeed Video is a giggle-inducing depiction of the emotions experienced by a first-time marathon runner over the course of a 26.2 mile run.

It’s hard to imagine any short-race runner going through all of that.


Hawaiians have a most interesting concept about time.  They know that time is a mind-construct.  It doesn’t really exist in the Real, they say.  Because time is a human-made thing, it stands to reason that humans can play with time.

When the pressure mounts and they are feeling overwhelmed by the sheer number of things that have to be done, Hawaiians remind each other to “ho’omanawanui.”

In modern times this phrase is translated as “don’t worry.”  However, a wise old Hawaiian shaman once told me, the literal meaning of this phrase can be broken down as follows:

Ho’o” = make

Manawa” = time

Nui” = big

When you put it all together “ho’omanawanui” becomes “make time big.”

The shaman was gently pointing out to me that I was trying to solve a very big chronic problem in a very short time frame.  It was driving me crazy. It seemed like every move I made compounded the chaos and it all got overwhelming.

The shaman listened to my tale of woe and advised me to give myself more time and more room in which to make my moves.

Letting go of an artificially set deadline, he said, would give me more time to allow the big mass of chaos I was facing to settle down so I could see how I could use my available resources – my time, my energy, my attention and my money – to better effect.

The moves I could choose to make became clearer when I did not feel the looming pressure of the deadline I had set for myself pressing on me.

Giving myself more time to resolve the situation was a simple matter of telling myself that I had all the time I needed to turn it all around.

This let me take a breath and slow down.  The situation no longer felt like a life-and-death emergency run, with lights flashing and sirens blaring.

“Flashing Lights” by Thomas Berber via Flickr [CC BY 2.0]
I could slow down.  Slowing down helped me see the opportunities that were already there and I was able to use them to help mitigate and correct a truly intolerable situation.

That one worked.  So have all the other times I’ve tried to use the Ho’omanawanui strategy.


A wide time horizon can help you avoid false “either/or” decisions.  It’s useful for challenging the assumptions you are carrying whenever you’re facing some choice.

“I’m all at sea….” by GraceOda via Flickr [CC BY-NC-ND 2.0]
Here’s an example.  Should I spend the summer with my kids making a memory?  Should I spend the summer building my client base so we’ll be able to continue living in the style to which we’ve grown accustomed?

If you start thinking on this in March and you’re looking at the upcoming summer, it’s likely that you’ll end up turning the choice into an “either/or” thing:  EITHER I spend the time with my kids OR I build my business.

If, however, you choose to spend next summer off at the beach with your kids, then you can use the year in between to save money, take on additional clients to generate more revenue, and give advance notice to your existing clients that you’re going to be taking off next summer.

You can even get the kids into planning what they want to do and see and making their own plans for the trip as well.   Together you can work on making the whole experience more meaningful and fun.

The decision becomes an “and”:  I am building my business AND I’m building a special memory with my kids.


An even bigger one is the one where you consider doing what you love and doing what makes you more money.  A wider time horizon can allow you to turn the thing into an AND decision, rather than making it an EITHER/OR proposition.

Giving yourself a wide time horizon allows you to consider working during the day and following your passion during the non-work hours.

You might choose doing what you’re passionate about as your primary activity and getting side gigs that make you money.

You might be able to figure out a way to make money doing your passion.

If you don’t load a lot of time constraints and have-to’s onto yourself, you can figure out how to get to where you’re going gracefully.  A bit of graciousness can creep in.


One of my favorite quotes about time is this one by Michael Altshuler:  “The bad news is time flies.  The good news is you’re the pilot.” 

Altshuler should know.  He is a sales coach whose personal track record shows over $65 million in personal and managed sales and he speaks before corporate audiences about peak performance.

For a while he did a stint on the t.v. hit show, American Gladiators.

Here’s a YouTube video produced by eSpeakers in 2016 that shows Altshuler in action.  His message in this thing is a good one….

Here’s a poem:


There is no saving time,

No matter what they say.

There’s only the spending

In wise and foolish ways.


It is a saving grace,

The knowing this is true

It becomes a matter of pacing,

Of finding the Real for you.


And when the hours are gone

When the clock has had its run,

The cosmic jest may yet come clear.

Here’s hoping you had fun….

by Netta Kanoho

Header picture credit:  Gear and Hands by Domiriel via Flickr [CC BY-NC 2.0]



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18 thoughts on “TIME HORIZONS

  1. What a unique site! I enjoyed reading some of your poems. Do you have an email subscription where we can get the poems to our inbox? I like the article: getting to enough. It seems we are constantly pushed in this society for “more,” that it is not enough. Thank you!

    1. Jay, I thank you! I will work on getting an e-mail subscription thing going for my poems. (Gee…I just never thought of that! Blind spot!)

      I do agree that we are constantly getting pushed from every direction to do more, be more, have more, on and on. Somebody once said that it’s kind of like riding a crowded bus. You have to use the pressures pressing in to keep your feet under you. That one sort of works….

      Thanks for your visit and your insights. I do appreciate them. Please do come again!

  2. I’m so glad I came across this. I’ve personally been feeling this. I had all of the deadlines for myself that I couldn’t adhere to putting so much pressure on myself and causing me to lose confidence. Now I slow down a lot more. Time is now on my side because I realize I am in control of how I spend it.

    1. Yay! Whitney, thanks for the visit and your story. I am glad the post helped. Please do come again!

  3. Hi Netta,

    Love this site and it is spot on. I use to try to get everything done and making myself unhappy. I now break things down into smaller task and I sort of stretch time.

    I make time big as you say! it has made a real difference. I actually schedule time for doing pleasant things now because I have more of it. Taking things more slowly means I do things better.

    Do you use this technique all the time i.e. at work as well?

    1. Hey Mike:  Thanks for your visit and your comments.  I certainly do use the technique for work as well.  It keeps me from too much whirlwind-riding of my own making.  Please do come again….

  4. Dear Netta Kanoho,

    Great post with great motivation.

    When you put it all together “ho’omanawanui” becomes “make time big.” Wow this is amazing and have deep meaning in it. Thanks a lot for sharing.

    I will go for “AND” instead of “EITHER/OR” great insights which made me to think a lot.

    Wow, amazing quote “The bad news is time flies.  The good news is you’re the pilot.” I like it and want to be a good pilot.

    Wishing you great success!

    Your Friend,


    1. Hey Paul:

      Thanks for your visit and for sharing your thoughts.  I do appreciate it!  I’m glad the post was a help to you.

      Please do come again….

  5. Alejandra says:

    I’m happy I found your website today,

    What an interesting article to read to know more about time, as most of the people keeps running all the time to feel they had a good day, you come here with another idea!

    What is time? Time is made up by humans, time is only a way to measure what?

    I took a note about what is more important: spending the time with your kids during the Summer or spending that time working on my business? What is more important.

    Thanks for sharing the story of you with the shaman, I like that phrase, Making Time Big!

    Making good memories is what is the most important to me!

    1. Thanks for the visit and for sharing your thoughts, Alejandra.  I agree with you!  Making good memories is way more important than most other things to me as well.

      Please do come again….

  6. Wow, that was extremely thought provoking. 

    I am so thankful for the reminder that time commitments can often be self imposed and that taking more time is almost always a good idea. 

    I loved your poem and will be saving the article to remind myself of the timeless wisdom shared here.(pun intended) 

    I know that as a business owner, caretaker, and overall busy person it’s easy to  make those time pressed either/or decisions. 

    Ive started trying not to have an immediate negative reaction to the question of whether or not something is possible. Instead I try to give myself time to examine the reason for an immediately negative reaction and making sure it isn’t a rote response made out of fear or a misunderstanding of what time is really required for whatever is thought of as impossible. 

    At the same time I try to give myself ample time to fail at something and not overload my plate by thinking I can accomplish double to triple the amount of work I would expect from anyone else n a given amount of time. 


    1. Ashley, thanks for your visit and for sharing your story.  

      Isn’t that always the way?  Why do we expect so much more from ourselves than we do from other people?  

      Please do come again!

  7. I love this article of yours. This is so true. I used to be such a hard-worker, I’d say workaholic. I kept hearing all my life that without hard work you achieve nothing. And there are still many people saying that now in the online world, people who strive to achieve success or have achieved a lot already. 

    Now, after many years, I can say that I have the best results when I let go and allow things to flow at their own pace. I enjoy every moment of my life and I’m so grateful for it. I do have some “goals” but they are rather dreams, I know what I want and believe that it will all manifest in due time while I’m doing what I love.

    Your poem is beautiful.

    Thank you.

    1. Thanks for the visit and for sharing your thoughts, Lenka.  I am so glad you enjoyed the post, and I do agree that sometimes doing the Big Slow Down can really be a most effective move to finding more mana and meaning in your life.

      Please do come again.

  8. I believe that time is something that can have a lot of benefits for us. It helps us to organize things better. 

    But it can also become a burden upon us. 

    I partially embrace the Hawaiian saying and partially don’t. You see, to have a controlled amount of pressure in our life is healthy. So, if time goals are becoming an unhealthy burden, then it’s time to embrace the Hawaiian approach.

    1. Abel, thanks for the visit and for sharing your thoughts.  Your comment makes me smile.  I like your thought that time is an organizational life-tool.  (I remember somebody or other once said that time was invented so that everything didn’t happen all at once.  That always struck me as a funny kind of truth.)

      I agree that a certain amount of stress and pressure in our lives does help us move our sorry butts to join in the dance of life.  Having nothing to do, nowhere to go and nobody to play with can be fun for a little while, but then it can get problematic.  

      Aimless wandering about can drain the life out of ya, I think.  Apathy (a.k.a. zombie-hood and no-f*cks-given) gets more likely.  Not a good thing.

      When the pressures get intense and you start approaching Overwhelm and feel like you’re falling into the Abyss, however, being able to “make time big” does help you make the space you need to keep on moving through whatever is coming at you.  

      Ho’omanawanui can be a very useful life-tool indeed.

      Please do come again.

  9. I really needed to read this today! I think I found it at just the right time.   I am always struggling with productivity and feel like I failed if I don’t get everything I wanted to accomplish done.

    I think I do need to slow down and appreciate what I am able to get done. Work in some time for myself, maybe.

    Thank you for giving me a new perspective on time and goals.

    1. Theresa, I am so pleased the post was helpful to you.

      Please come again….

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