DEALING WITH CHANGE

DEALING WITH CHANGE

The wise guys tell us that most of the phenomena in the world are the results of consensus and moving energy.  They are part of the larger dance that includes everything and everybody.  How you see it is filtered through your own memories and the patterns of behavior built up by past experiences.

But then, one day you look up and notice that the world-as-you-know-it has changed so much you don’t recognize anything any more.  What do you do then?

AS THE WORLD TURNS

Many wise guys say  that most of the world’s phenomena often have little noticeable impact  on you except as they accumulate all together.  It’s like the long-term effects of accretion and erosion — Earth-energy things.  It’s a slow-flowing liquid movement, like the movement of glass, for instance, or a glacier, and you are just one particle in all of this.

margerie-glacier
Margerie Glacier by Kimberly Vardeman via Flickr [CC BY 2.0]
For decades it all goes along in a way that is understandable and part of a continuum that you are able to embrace because it just is a continuance of what has gone before.  And then comes the landslide, the calving iceburg, the new discovery, the game-changing world event…and everything is different and you’re there scratching your head.  Huh?

DOING THE ANT

Some people say your view of the whole thing is like that of an ant lugging along a bit of a bread crumb with his buddies.  You, the ant, are doing your thing.  And the whole rest of it goes on around you.  You and the guys get the crumb home.  There’s a party.  Whoop-de-doo!  Life goes on.

Then one day some bozo drops poisoned ant bait on the counter and you and the guys lug it on home and it all changes.  Oy!

LETTING GO

The best way to navigate in a world of change, according to the wise guys, is to try releasing old stuff — letting go of being an ant locked into ant-ness.  If you can do that, then you can stay in touch with the world all around you.  You have a better understanding about what is going on and you can respond better as a result.

In the following YouTube video, “Letting Go of the Old World,” the author of the book THE TURNING POINT: Creating Resilience in a Time of Extremes, Gregg Braden, tells a story about people in a town who are stuck because they are waiting for things to return to their old “normal.”

Braden says the old normal is not going to be coming back.  His suggestion for avoiding being overcome by the extreme changes in this post-modern world is the same as the ancient wise guys:  Let Go.

What Braden suggests is another way of Un-Seeing and , for real, it is very hard to do.

FINAL THOUGHT

I do like Braden’s suggestion about properly mourning the world that is gone and then turning around to face the future again.  Somehow, that seems likely to make it a little bit easier, maybe.

Here’s a poem….


NEW PROJECT

Okay, new project:

Letting go of all the dreams already blown away on

The whirling blusters that blast through my days,

Unheeding of the time and care I lavished on the silly things.

 

It’s not like they’re anywhere close by, those dreams.

They’re probably in Kansas by now.

They really were cool.

Everything just so….

The perfect this,

The stellar that.

 

Oh, dear…

Oh, my…

Oh, me….

 

Wise guys say it should not matter,

That the dreams are all illusion anyhow,

But what do THEY know?

All THEY ever want to look at is the Big Empty –

The same one that’s sucked up

Every one of those rainbow-colored ice cream sherbet dreams

That probably would have melted into sticky goopy puddles anyhow.

 

I wonder what those wise guys see in that Empty place….

And, don’t go telling me about the Empty that’s Full

‘Cause right now I am THIS close to bopping you!

 

It does make me wonder…

How come those dreams flew off and I didn’t?

Why am I still standing in this poppy field?

Who knows?

 

I wonder where they went, those dreams.

I hope it’s a nice place.

They really were some good little dreams….

by Netta Kanoho

Picture credit:  Ants Carry Off Some Bread by Tom Houslay via Flickr [CC BY-NC 2.0]

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10 thoughts on “DEALING WITH CHANGE

  1. Hi Nets

    Thank you for this post, which actually came at the appropriate time for me. Change is unpleasant at most, even the most beneficial of changes can leave one imbalanced. Letting go is one of the things that we need to do when a change occurs, but it isn’t always easy, especially when the change has something to do with a lot of pain…like with death and losing someone you love.

    I agree with being one with your emotions and properly taking the time to mourn whatever it is that one has lost in the change, and once that is done the accepting the new world with open arms. This isn’t always possible though, sometimes there just isn’t time to mourn, don’t you think?

    Thanks again,
    Dee

    1. Hey Dee:

      Thank you for your visit and your comments. I do agree. Sometimes when you’re transitioning you cannot find the time to mourn properly. At some point, however, things do settle down and then you can start. It took about nine months for me to even accept the passing of my husband and then another year or two to find my feet. The emotions and the change, even almost twenty years later, still pulls at me. However, because I took the time to do the work of letting go, it is a lot more distant than it used to be. The lessons have been good ones, for the most part. I wish you good fortune on your own journey.

      Please come again….

  2. This is a wonderful post. Reading it in the midst of a big change that is coming my way in life. Thank you so much for writing it.

    The challenge of releasing the old stuff is the hardest part of change for me. What if one is willing to release and let it go but there’s an huge inertia for the others to hang on to it for sentimental reasons? The act will turn into a kaleodoscope of mixed emotions which sometimes make it hard to manage. But nevertheless, nothing can be done cleanly and nothing should as life is a journey where we deal with situations one thing at a time. We cannot do too much as we can’t do too little.

    1. Hey Rags: Thanks for your visit and your comments. I’m glad the post helped. Please do come again….

  3. Riaz Shah says:

    Hey Netta,
    I can totally relate to your article, change is inevitable I know that but personally I’ve always been afraid of change. Do you happen to know why?

    For example, I’ve been using a blackberry for a while and when the iphone trend hits, I wanted to give into the hype and I actually bought an iPhone but never really used it for 3 months because I’m too comfortable with my blackberry. Is this normal with many people or is it just me?

    1. Hey Riaz: You like your comfort zone. Nothing wrong with that. I just had my computer wizard build me a virtual machine within my new computer so that I could continue to use Windows XP and run my very old programs (Microsoft Works and cardfile) that I can make dance. How retro is THAT? Since that new computer will never venture onto the internet, I’ll probably be able to use the thing until it collapses.

      I think, perhaps, people like us have a very refined awareness of what we lose when we take on new things and if the displacement of the old is great, it may not be worth it to us to make the shift. Some people are extreme sports fanatics, other people are lead-bottoms. I am proud to be a lead-bottom, my own self…but it is good to know that when I HAVE to move fast, I can do that one too.

      Thanks for your visit and comments. Please do come again.

  4. I like adventure so I can feel what you try to express. When I was as an elementary student, we moved home 4-5 times. I always just made new friends and it was about time to say good-bye. Back to then, we had no cell phone, no what’s app, so I felt lonely.

    After graduated from school, my first sales job was sent to Moscow and began to travel in different continental. I began to get used to change of environment, to wake up in the different city. I try to feel the sensation and power coming from change. Since then life is getting colorful and I have no more fear.

    Making ant a metaphor is interesting. It seems to me the ant always work hard and pays attention to jobs not others.

    1. George, thank you for your visit and for sharing your story. I do appreciate it.

      You are right. There is power that flows through change and life does get interesting, doesn’t it?

      Please do come again….

  5. BisayangInvestor says:

    Indeed, the best thing we can do about changes, especially the long-term and irreversible, is to accept and let go.

    If we cannot do something about it then, we have move forward.

    There is also a change that we need to initiate, a change of oneself. I’m an introvert type of person and because of the fact that I want to be truly rich, not just in my finances, but in all aspects of my life, I need to change myself.

    Somehow, the process is difficult, but I accepted the challenge and soon I’ll let go of my introverted self.

    1. Hey BisayangInvestor:

      Thank you for the visit and for sharing your thoughts.  Good fortune on your intention to change.

      Please do come again….

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